A-Z of Kink

October 19, 2022 4 min read

A-Z of Kink | Eden's Temple Sex Toys Ireland

Ever heard about Edging and wondered what it was? Or what is a Masochist and where did the word come from? What's the difference between a Kink and a Fetish?

The world of BDSM is full of words and phrases that we don't hear in every day life and therefore, most likely, we have no idea what they mean when we first encounter them, or a partial idea at best. So with that in mind, we decided to put together an A-Z Glossary of all things Kink, Fetish & BDSM, a different term for every letter of the alphabet, explained in detail. Remember, every day is a school day... and I'm not talking just about roleplaying!

If you're looking to educate yourself in the world of boudoirs and bondage, look no further, its Eden's Temple's A-Z of Kink. 


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Once you've experienced the heights of a euphoric BDSM scene, it's quite possible that you may come crashing back down soon after.

The surge of adrenaline and endorphins lead your body to a temporary imbalance. The rush of these chemicals leaving your body, known as sub drop (and Dom drop), can be just as disconcerting andthe hours (and days) after aheavy scene can be emotional.

'Aftercare' can be defined as the physical and/or the emotional care-taking that occurs after a BDSM encounter.

Oftentimes it's the submissive who needs a little extra aftercare, But it's important for aftercare to go both ways.

Examples of Aftercare

  • making the environment comfortable and warm
  • Hugging, cuddling, caressing
  • wrapping up in a warm blanket
  • watching a feel good movie
  • eating comfort food
  • talking about the experience; what you liked (or disliked), what you'd like to try next time, ways to improve the experience for each other.


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Bondage, by definition, means: the state of being a slave or prisoner. In kink terms, it can be defined as; the act of tying up or restraininga sexual partner.

Bondage includes the use ofrestraint to restrict movementto bring about pleasure. Common bondage items include; rope,handcuffs, armbinders, blindfoldsand other restraints.

Bondage has been a fixture of erotic novels and art for centuries, fromthe Marquis De Sade’s 1791 novel 'Justine',to Rembrandt's 1631 painting 'Andromeda Chainedto the Rocks'. In modern culture, the publicationof Madonna's 1992 book 'Sex', which included photographs of bound nudes, did a great deal to improve public awareness and acceptance of bondage.



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A cuckold is the husband or boyfriend of a person who has sex with other people. In a modern fetish context, a cuckold is a man who takes pleasure from his partner having sex with other people. The term cuckold is often shortened to cuck. The word originally derives from the cuckoo bird, which has a tendency of laying its eggs in other birds' nests.

Traditionally a cuckold was a married man with an adulterous wife. However, the term now describes any man in a committed relationship who enjoys his partner having sex with other people. Cuckolds may have any sexual identity. The partners of cuckolds and the people they have sex with may be of any gender or sexuality. The term cuckold is the masculine equivalent of cuckquean.



D is for Dominant | Eden's Temple's A-Z of Kink

A Dominant is a sexual participant who takes on a leadership role and consensually controls a submissive participant. This type of partnership is often referred to in the BDSM community as a D/S partnership.

A male Dominant is often called a Dom, for short, or a master.

A female Dominant is commonly referred to as a Domme or Mistress.

Different types of Doms;

  • Daddy/Mommy Dominants
  • Masters/Mistresses
  • Rope Top/Rigger
  • Findom (financial domination)
  • Primal Dom
  • brat tamer
  • owner
  • Sadist



E is for... Edging | Eden's Temple's A-Z of Kink

Edging involves sexual stimulation and stopping just before the point of orgasm. Edging aims to extend a person’s sexual enjoyment for longer periods. It may also intensify the experience.

It is possible to perform edging alone or with others. Anyone might engage in edging, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.

Also known as surfing, teasing, or peaking, edging can increase
arousal and libido and can help with erectile dysfunction in particular.

You can edge as many times as you want before orgasm but if you're
new to the practice, between 2 and 5 times is a good place to start.



F is for Fetish | Eden's Temples A-z of Kink

Fetishes are nontraditional sexual interests or behaviours (kinks) that are, for a particular individual, a deep and abiding (and possibly even necessary) element of sexual arousal and activity.

The dictionary describes it as "If someone has a fetish, they have an unusually strong liking or need for a particular object or activity, as a way of getting sexual pleasure... eg. rubber and leather fetishes...fetish wear for sexual arousal."

Some common fetishes include

  • feet/shoes
  • leather/rubber
  • smoking
  • piercings/tattoos
  • food
  • sensory deprivation
  • urine (watersports)
  • pain (giving/receiving)


G is for... Gag | Eden's Temple's A-Z of Kink

Used to keep your lover’s mouthopen during BDSM and other sensual role-playing games, gags are a frequently used part of consensual dominance.

They are attached to an adjustable harness that gets strapped around the back of the wearer’s head, not only keeping the gag in place but also preventing it from slipping back into the throat and becoming lodged.

Like riding a roller coaster, wearing a gag provides a safe and secure level of uncertainty that can be harnessed into sexual energy. A good gag can enhance the dom/sub dynamic to newheights, just ensure to follow some simple safety rules first.

Important safety rules while using a gag:

  • Have a safety signal
  • Agree on the rules ahead of time
  • Make sure the gag isn't too big for the users mouth
  • Wash It before every use

To be continued...

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